Behind The Board: Does This Make Me Look Like a Narcissist?

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Over the last couple of weeks, I’ve engaged in conversations with different friends and associates about what it is that I get out of being a DJ.  Specifically, my thoughts have surrounded why it is that I’m primarily a wedding DJ.

Simply put, using my own words, it’s because I have somewhat narcissistic tendencies.

According to Wikipedia, narcissism is described thusly:

Narcissism is the pursuit of gratification from vanity or egotistic admiration of one’s own attributes.

I suppose that I should articulate my chain of thought before anyone gets too caught up on the language to get where my head and my heart happen to be.

We hear all of the time how you should try to work at something that you love.  They say that, if you love what you do, you’ll never work a day in your life.  It’s why there are painters, musicians, athletes.

But I have a slight problem with the notion that you’ll never work a day in your life if you love what you do.  You see, in order to get good at something, MOST things, it takes practice, which IS work.  It takes dedication and focus.  It takes drive, desire.  I actually work, despite the fact that what I do is considered by many to be play.

Bear with me, I’m getting to my point in a bit.

I never aspired to be a DJ when I was growing up.  I wanted a job in computer animation.  That was what I wanted to do when I graduated from high school, any way.  While I had an appreciation for music, being a DJ, especially a wedding DJ, was never an option.  Life has an interesting way of guiding you toward places and things that you’d have never considered on your own, though.

The thing that I love most about being a wedding DJ; the thing that keeps calling me back, is the fact that I get to see one of those moments in time where the best of Humanity is present.  It’s a pivotal moment in the lives of the newlyweds and their respective families.  It’s a day that’s filled with Hope, that’s supposed to be centered around Love.  With all of the worst of Humanity that we see on the news every day, it’s an escape; an opportunity to see a different side of the Human Condition.

Imagine that.  Happiness.  Hope.  Love.  Friendship.  Family.  All of that and more wrapped up in a few hours in one day of one couple’s lives.  I get to play a part in that.

I’ve GOTTA be closing in on somewhere in the mid-600s when it comes to the number of events that I’ve done over the last eleven years; the vast majority of those events being wedding receptions.  I have honed certain talents in an effort to take part in THAT day on countless occasions.

Yes, SOMEBODY’S gotta do it.  Might as well be me, right?

No, those wedding receptions aren’t about me, not by a long shot.  But I play a pivotal role in each and every one.

The smiles, the thanks, the compliments; those are all about ME.  That’s all about receiving kudos for a job well done.  That’s all about validation.

To quote a Faithless song right now, I want MORE.

Behind The Board: Passion

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I’ve been silent for a bit.  Don’t mistake that silence for me having dropped off the face of the earth, though.  I’ve just been a bit busy getting ducks in a row on a number of fronts.  This whole entrepreneurial deal is new to me.  To be quite honest, it’s a bit daunting (something that I’d be advised NOT to admit to potential clients checking out my business), but I’m up for it.  I’ve been doing this for so long that it’s just a question of finding out my identity and making things happen.  There WILL be growing pains, but that’s the way it is with everything in Life, so it’s all just par for the course.

That’s as good a segue as I can get as far as what’s on my mind for this particular post.  See, I’ve been dealing with an itch to put my fingers to keyboard and bang out a few different writing projects.  With the hats that I’m wearing, a few of them all but demand that I put something out into the world about what’s going on.  So, I’ve chosen my business, with those of you that have been keeping tabs, as the first thing for me to share a little bit more of myself about.

I’ve mentioned before how I almost literally stumbled into becoming a DJ.  I’ve also mentioned how I approach each outing, what it means to me to be a DJ.  So, let’s just say that this is an offshoot of those conversations.

See, I created this blog as a means to talk about my business, but it’s more to give potential clients and those friends, family, associates that are paying attention clarity on why I do what I do.  Take it as the learning experience that I intended for it to be.  If i give you a little insight, if there’s a little bit of enlightenment, I’ve done my job.  If, somehow, it ends up inspiring someone to some call to action, even better.  With that being said, let’s dig in, shall we?

Over the last several years, I’ve been a mentor to DJ hopefuls for the company that I sub-contract for.  A little over a year ago, I was asked to take a larger role in the training of DJs for the company.  To say that I was excited for the opportunity doesn’t do it any justice.  It’s a role that I take VERY seriously and I relish it a lot more than I had originally anticipated.

Last week, during spring break for one of my other endeavors (Math Enrichment Tutor at an elementary school), I spent time training the most recent class of hopefuls.  Leading the 4 nights of class reminded me why I do what I do.

You see, I’ve been passionate about being a DJ, especially being a wedding DJ.  You can’t do anything well if you don’t put yourself into it.  For me, this isn’t a job, it’s virtually a way of life.  It’s a vehicle for escape from the uglier side of Life.  It’s a way for me to put my stamp on the world in a way that I know not everyone is willing or able to do.

PASSION.

I can teach people how to set up the equipment.  I can teach them the basics of how to use the mixer, the CD players, running the lights.  I can give them all of the pointers in the world about how best to carry themselves during an event, the people to talk with, the way to dress.  But one thing that I can’t teach is personality.  I can’t instill passion.

Passion is putting on your game face and doing a gig, even when you’re reeling from the loss of a loved one.  Not only that, but doing it so well that no one has a clue that you’re dealing with the kind of heartbreak that would cause many to take a day or even a week off.  It’s putting on the party of a lifetime, even when you’re dealing with events in your life that may make you wish to do nothing but curl up in a ball in some deep, dark hole somewhere, never to come out.

Passion is that drive that allows you to learn the lessons from a less-than-favorable outing, using them to improve for the next time.  It’s that quality that they describe when you’ve left them with sore feet, sweaty clothes and a very strong desire to either pass out as soon as their head hits their pillow…  Or continue partying until they finally feel that desire.  Passion is the reason for the “thank yous”, the “you’re awesomes”, the “we want YOU for our weddings!”

Passion is that quality that allows me to stand in front of a room full of strangers and proclaim that “if you’re here because you heard that the tips are good, LEAVE.”  It’s that quality that urges me to remind people that I am NOT trying to push people through a training program for bodies…  As far as I’m concerned, I might as well be putting my name, my reputation on the line when it comes to these trainees.  Passion is why I will tell someone that I don’t believe that they’ll make it.  It’s why I’ll tell someone that they need more practice behind the board or that they need to work on talking on the mic.  Passion is why I get upset when I hear of some of the idiotic things that DJs do at these events.

Because those DJs give ALL of us a bad name when they do them.

Most of all, PASSION is why I put my own name onto my DJ service.  Some may not believe it wise.  That’s just fine.  But I am not doing this to just make money.  Yes, making money IS part of the equation.  But the main thing is that I LOVE being a DJ.  I’ve been a wedding DJ for nearly 11 years.  I’ve been spinning in some capacity since 1990.  It’s not a phase, nor is it a hobby.

It’s in my DNA.

Behind the Board: Recognition

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In a previous post, I talked about how I’m a DJ, not a salesman.  The gist of that post was basically referring to the fact that, when I attend wedding fairs and bridal shows, I’d rather focus on what I know best when engaging in conversations with potential clients: being a DJ (or MC) for an event.

Yesterday saw the first big wedding fair of the year, held at the Minneapolis Convention Center.  I was in attendance as a representative of the company that I do all of my sub-contract work for.  Though, I’m not officially part of the sales team, I’m often asked to attend these events.

Understanding that I’m a fledgling entrepreneur myself, each of these outings that I attend drive the point home about establishing your brand and building your reputation.  I know of a handful of other DJ services that were in attendance yesterday (I am acquainted with representatives of a few of them, having worked alongside them at one point or another).

The difficulty for me when I attend these events is the fact that it almost serves to shoot me in the foot when it comes to my own DJ service.  While I am attempting to establish myself, there are some things that the company I sub-contract for has that I don’t (or has more of than I do).

That being said, my name and my face is becoming more recognizable.  I’ve been told that other DJ services and many vendors have heard of me.  When checking out the feedback left for the company that got me into the industry in the first place, my name occasionally pops up on weddingwire.com or theknot.com.

Yesterday was an eye-opener for me, but also for the vice-president of the company that I sub-contract for.  You see, a few weeks ago, I did a wedding reception that ended up being a LOT of fun.  In fact, I referenced comments made at that reception here.  When I was told that there would be more couples that had been in attendance at that event getting married, I was not prepared for the result to be made as clear as it was yesterday.

The biggest “selling point” for me when it comes to being a DJ is my actual work.  It isn’t about knowing the pitch word for word.  It isn’t about knowing how to work a sale by offering additional lighting or slashing prices here or there for someone shopping around (though, I have moderately engaged in this very thing while trying to establish myself).  It comes from doing what I do to the best of my ability and allowing those witnessing the event to see my competence, my confidence and my joy at what I do.

No, I haven’t skipped to a different point or forgotten where my train of thought is taking me.  Just keep following.

You see, at these wedding fairs and bridal shows, there is generally a target number of leads to be generated and bookings to be made.  Obviously, the reason to attend these it to drum up business, so it’s a “necessary evil.”  I don’t know what the goals for either were yesterday, but I DO know that I did my part; doing my part had almost nothing to do with my presence at the fair and EVERYTHING to do with the job that I did at that reception a few weeks prior.

I lost count of the number of couples that were in attendance at that event that made their way to the wedding fair yesterday.  Of the couples that were in attendance, most of them booked; a couple of them are most likely to book soon.  While I am mentioning the business end of it, the point that stuck out for me is the enthusiasm that these couples expressed when they stopped by our booth.

You got out there and danced with us! 

We LOVED how you took control of the night and had fun with us!

You made that night such a FUN time!

Those comments, the smiles on the faces of the people who made them and the energy that they had during those discussions only serve to validate what I know.  Their patronage, driven to some degree by witnessing me in action, is encouragement and motivation.  It’s hard for me to say this without coming across as arrogant or cocky; to that, I say, it’s not bragging if you can back it up: I’m not good at what I do; I’m DAMN good at what I do.  While I may have the occasional off event (and every DJ does), there’s nobody that can convince me otherwise.

Now, the challenge that I need to face: how to go from being The DJ That Works For MWS to being my own entity, recognized for my work for my own brand?

I’m gonna keep on doing what I’ve been doing.  With a little more emphasis on building my own brand as my confidence about the future of my own company continues to grow.  It’s a slower process right now while I continue to learn the intricacies of being a business owner.  But I WILL be known as The Owner of SPinex Entertainment over That DJ With MWS.

It’s only a matter of time, education and effort.

DJ? Entertainer? Something else?

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It’s nearly the middle of January and we’re FIRMLY situated in what’s known in the wedding industry as off-season.

Off-season? What does that mean?

Well, it’s pretty simple, really. Off-season is that time of year where everyone in the wedding industry isn’t being inundated with wedding events. Generally speaking, wedding season ends around the first week of November and lasts through until about the first weekend after Easter. Essentially, while people are still getting married during that time of the year, it’s not as crazy-busy as it is during the warmer months.

Okay, Steve. But what does that have to do with the actual title of this blog entry?

Oh, yeah. That. I’m actually getting to that in just a few moments. Bear with me.

You see, off-season means that there aren’t quite as many wedding receptions to go around. In its place (not as numerous) are the holiday parties. This being January, I’ve often found that I can be as busy doing holiday parties as I’d be doing wedding receptions during the off-season. At the end of a recent event, one of the guests made the following comment (paraphrased):

You are not a DJ, you are an entertainer.

Earlier in the evening, this same guest made it a point to tell me that I was the best MC that he’d ever seen (making it a point to add that he’d been doing videography of some sort for the past 30 years or so).

My knee-jerk reaction to the proclamation that I’m not a DJ was to wonder just what the hell this man was talking about. I’ve always referred to myself as a DJ, despite pointing out that I’m not JUST a DJ. I identify more with being a DJ because that’s where my passion lies in what I’m doing. So, with that conversation firmly in mind, I put it to the Facebook page of my fledgling DJ service (and my own Facebook newsfeed) to get the reactions of some of my friends and colleagues. Here are a few responses.

To me a DJ stands behind his equipment and puts music on for others to listen to. You put music on and you get out on the floor. And get everyone involved! You teach those who don’t know a dance how to do it, you make people enjoy themselves and have a great time-whether they’re watching you dance and interact or whether they’re out there dancing with you.

This one’s from a fellow DJ that I’ve worked alongside.

DJs “spin” music to satisfy their own desires and preferences, entertainers use music as a tool to create a party atmosphere and to satisfy the desires of others to have fun.

This next one is from another fellow DJ (in semi-retirement) who I worked alongside during the first few years of being a wedding DJ.

A dj…….spins tunes. An entertainer, spins tunes and is fun to watch at his work, gets people wound up and makes them more than glad that they had such a great person working at their event.

One of the reasons that I created this blog (then re-created it as a stand-alone) was because I wanted potential clients to get a bit of an understanding of what it is they’re potentially getting as they search for the entertainment for their wedding reception. The idea is for this blog to be informative. If the information found here makes someone comfortable enough to take a chance on allowing me to be their entertainer, so be it. Clearly, since this is my blog, it speaks a LOT about my own personal preferences and experiences; touches on what I bring to the plate when I’m working a reception.

As alluded to before, I’ve mentioned in other blog entries that I am more than JUST a DJ. I’ve all but married couples during their ceremonies (I have lost count of how many ceremonies I’ve been a part of from a musical standpoint). I’ve essentially been the equivalent of a day-of wedding coordinator for many of the events I’ve worked. I’ve held doors open for the guests (often being mistaken for being security in the process). I’ve been called upon to bless the meal on more than one occasion. I’ve even served a drink or two and I may have had a hand in helping serve meals along with bussing and breaking down tables. I’ve always believed that I’m good at what I do and the feedback placed on The Knot and sent in via email, via postcard/letter and through emails only goes to show me that I’m doing something good.

I’ll always refer to myself as a DJ. While it wasn’t necessarily my love of music that turned me on to this profession, being a DJ is a key element to what I do. It’s the other elements that I personally don’t consider unless I’m engaging in a similar discourse to this one that I underestimate. How much I engage the guests, often before I actively play one note of music besides cocktail or dinner music. How much fun I have dancing behind my table or actually getting out onto the dance floor with everyone else. It’s the conversations with the fathers as they wait to dance with their daughters; the moms waiting to dance with their sons, the conversations with other vendors in an effort to make sure that EVERYTHING goes as smoothly as possible for that particular client and their guests on that special night.

DJ? MC? Dance Instructor? Entertainer?

That answer is simpler than I initially thought. All of the above, as needed. How’s THAT for multitasking?

Behind The Board: The Pricing Issue

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During my last post, I mentioned that, generally, people tend to avoid talking about money.  I’m going to amend that with this post.

As a fledgling entrepreneur (translation: I’m self-employed and am learning the ropes of running my own business), I am keenly aware of the fact that many people just want to go straight to the bottom line: How much is this going to cost me?  It’s a valid question, one that always determines the outcome of a sales lead (no matter how that lead may have been generated).

Truth be told, one of the things that I’ve personally agonized over is price point.  You see, there is this stigma that DJs are a dime a dozen.  Some people seem to believe that ANYONE can be a DJ.  DJs range in price from a couple of hundred to the thousands of dollars.  DJs also range in talent from those DJs who only do it as a hobby to someone who has made it their living (yours truly falls more in the latter category, as being a wedding DJ is my primary source of income).

Ultimately, it’s up to the individual to determine if the dollar amount associated with the service that they’re signing on for is of value to them.  Yes, this may be a D’uh! statement, but far be it from me to leave it unsaid.

So, from the side of this particular wedding DJ, let’s look at some of the factors that go into the price I’d ask for my services:

  1. The Gear
  2. Upkeep and Upgrading the Gear
  3. Transporting the Gear
  4. Music
  5. Opportunity Costs (translation: Time)
  6. “Intangibles”

The Gear
Let’s face it: in order to be a wedding DJ, there’s a sizable investment when it comes to the equipment that is used.  I personally run with 2 CD players, both capable of reading CDs and USB drives.  They’re anti-skip and can do a few little tricks that aren’t really relevant for what’s required for a wedding reception.  Be that as it may, they tend not to be inexpensive.  In an ideal world, backups are on hand, simply because technology can have a tendency to be flaky (especially if it isn’t properly taken care of).

The most expensive single piece of the puzzle happens to be the speakers.  I run with 2 JBL 15-inch powered speakers.  They’re lightweight, tend to take a beating and have served me well.  Of course, you want backups on these as well; without sound, you have no show.  Not a good place to be, by ANY stretch of the imagination.

I run a 12-inch, 3-channel American Audio mixer.  It is my command center when it comes to the sound.  I first became acquainted with these once I began doing my sub-contract work.  They’ve served me well, but they aren’t inexpensive, either.  They are pre-amp, meaning that everything plugs into the mixer, the mixer has outputs to the powered speakers (that have amps built-in).

Lighting tends to be less expensive but are no less important (though, to be fair, you can do a gig without lights, you CANNOT do a gig without sound).  Of everything that I upgrade, I tend to upgrade lights most because I’m always looking for something to enhance the ambiance without overpowering.  I don’t go all-out with the lighting; there’s enough to go with different moods as the night progresses.  However, there’s enough to give color when things are a little more active.

Upkeep and Upgrading the Gear
Some people may not believe that this is important.  Believe me, it is VERY important.  You want reliable equipment at EVERY stage of the game.  I don’t want to have to worry if my mixer is going to crap out on me in the middle of the newlyweds’ first dance.  That would be a HUGE embarrassment for everyone involved.  I also don’t want to worry about blowing speakers or having all of my lights suddenly stop working.  Testing the gear is part of the preparation for each event.  If something doesn’t work properly before I hit the road, a solution needs to be found.

Whether that solution is me troubleshooting and determining that I can fix the problem myself, having to break down and take equipment in to a professional to repair or determining that a piece of equipment needs replacement, the eventuality has to be taken into account.

Transporting the Gear
After the initial investment, this may be the biggest expense that I’ve had thus far.  Upkeep of my vehicle is a MUST.  Gas, oil changes, general upkeep and maintenance of the vehicle is paramount.  Let’s not forget auto insurance, either.  It’s just the responsible thing to do, after all.  My vehicle is as much a part of my gear as the items listed above.  I can’t say “Have Gear, Will Travel” if I have no vehicle to travel with.

Music
Most people couldn’t care less how a DJ comes into possession of music for their events.  Truth be told, it’s not something that a client SHOULD have to be concerned with.  The DJ, however, IS concerned about it.

I try to make sure that I legally acquire my music.  I don’t want to play songs from YouTube, as streaming songs is completely unreliable.  I don’t generally bring a laptop or an external hard drive with me; those are two more items that I need to be concerned about upkeep and potential loss.

In this age of Amazon, ITunes and other places to download music, it’s easier than ever to get your hands on a lot of songs.  Easy does not often translate to inexpensive and a song here, a song there adds up far more quickly than you might think.

Opportunity Costs
Let’s face it: whether this is my chosen profession or not, there’s ALWAYS opportunity costs associated with the job.  I spend time away from my family on the weekends; time where there’s no school for my kids, no work for my wife.  Because of the way the schedules work, time spent catching up with friends and extended family is sacrificed as well.  But this isn’t about a sob story of how wedding DJs should be paid more for sacrificing their weekends.

Virtually all DJ services charge based on a block of time.  Four hours, five hours, six hours; most have a base rate based off the amount of time a client wishes to be served.  Some charge a certain rate for background music with a different rate for Dance Music.  What’s the difference you ask?  The amount of work that your DJ is putting in at the time.

Intangibles
For now, I count advertising and marketing as intangibles.  Where I once strictly went with word of mouth, I’m now taking this more seriously.  The webmaster won’t do his job without getting paid.  The people that handle business cards also won’t just do a job without a fee.  Even something like dry cleaning my suits needs to be considered.

Most people only think of the things that they can experience themselves.  But, for that DJ, there’s a LOT more to take into account.

Some DJ services will charge fees to go with more than their basic lighting package (assuming that they have a basic lighting package).  Other upgrades and enhancements are also additional charges.

I’ve heard that some DJ services charge different rates based off the talent of the DJ that you could potentially have serving you on the day of your event.  Receiving one of their senior-most DJs will require you to pay more than you would pay for one of their less-seasoned performers.

It’s JUST me.  Doing my thing.  The same thing that I’ve been doing for ten-and-a-half years now.  Somewhere in the realm of 600 events (probably more, I’ve lost count) under my belt.  Wedding receptions, ceremonies, company parties, school dances and other private events.  I do my pricing based off the hours package; I’ve also tried to be fair and base it on each individual client’s budget.

I have seen a need to do my own pricing, though.  In fact, some potential clients have all but demanded that I give some sort of price point.  It hasn’t been easy and I get the feeling that it may need to be tweaked.

I can say this much, though: I believe I’m worth every penny and then some.  All I need is more opportunities outside of my sub-contract work to prove it.

Behind The Board: Have Gear, Will Travel (Within Reason)

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Spirit Mountain

The view of Duluth, MN from Spirit Mountain

One thing that I tend to underestimate when it comes to being a Mobile DJ is just HOW mobile I’m often called upon to be.  I do a LOT of subcontract work for the largest DJ service where I live.  The vast majority of the gigs I’ve done have been in the state where I live.

I couldn’t begin to tell you off the top of my head how many miles I’ve put on the vehicles I’ve used for this endeavor or how many hours I’ve spent behind the wheel getting to and from the places where I’ve played.  I CAN say this: some of the places I’ve traveled to have been spectacular.

The pic attached to this entry was taken shortly after I made my way back home from family business in Chicago.  It was my first trip to Duluth to actually work a gig; my first time ever setting foot on Spirit Mountain territory.  Few views that I’ve seen since becoming a wedding DJ match this one.  It was a GREAT place to hold a wedding ceremony and I’m glad that I had the opportunity to be the DJ for the job.  The party afterward was one I won’t forget, either; the night in question was one of those that validated me as a wedding DJ.  On that note, I digress.

I like to see myself as versatile in terms of the clientele I could be called upon to serve (because, let’s face it, being a wedding DJ means that I’m most definitely in the service industry).  I’ve done receptions in people’s back yards.  I’ve done receptions in American Legions and VFWs.  I’ve now got Spirit Mountain under my belt, not to mention receptions at Camp Manitou near Eau Claire, Wisconsin, Eagle Ridge Resort in Lutsen, MN and one out near the Boundary Waters in Grand Marais, MN.  From Radisson Blu at the Mall of America to Windows way up high in the IDS Tower, I’ve had the pleasure of seeing some awe-inspiring views of Minnesota.

I’m often asked how far I’ll travel.  I know it may seem like a cop-out to say that I honestly don’t know how far I’ll travel for a gig, but I really don’t.  Outside of some of the aforementioned locations, it hasn’t really been put to the test for places outside of Minnesota (though, it HAS been tested in-state).

Mentioning these places might beg the question as to my personal preference when it comes to where I play.  I readily admit, I do have a few places where I love to do my thing.  In all honesty, though, it isn’t the location that inspires the preference, but the assemblage of people that I get to work with that inspires those preferences.  It doesn’t matter if it’s the poshest of country clubs/golf courses or the most modest of hotels or restaurants; what matters most is the talent that I’m working with (catering staff, photographers and any others that may be part of the team working to give the event the memorable feel that the clients are looking for).

I realize that people generally tend to avoid talking money; unfortunately, it’s one of the necessary evils that come with the job.  Food, gas, lodging all need to be accounted for.  Another piece of the puzzle for me is the time factor: time to arrive on-site with PLENTY of time to set up my gear and test everything; time to get my head into the game.  And, for those of you that have read my blogs from nearly the beginning, there’s also the time that I put in for overall preparation of the event.

I don’t generally get to enjoy the scenery as much as I would if I were just a guest or if I were visiting these places of my own accord.  Truth be told, I may not have visited some of them had it NOT been for the fact that I’m a wedding DJ.  Regardless, it’s one of the perks that come with doing what I do.  Combine that with what I joyfully refer to as a Throw-Down and you have a memorable occasion that has a completely different look and feel than it does for the newlyweds, their friends or their families.

Saying that that aspect of my chosen profession is intoxicating MIGHT be an understatement.

Behind The Board: Perception Is (Not Always) Reality

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One of the things that has pleased me the most about my job over the past year is the fact that I’ve now become a trainer for the company that I sub-contract for.  I’ve been a mentor for years; taking DJ hopefuls out into the field, imparting my wisdom to them while giving them a glimpse of how I have made the things that were taught to me during my decade-plus as a wedding DJ my own.  I’ve attempted to stress the importance of preparation to what we do.  I’ve attempted to stress how our “uniform” isn’t solely about what we’re wearing, but it’s in the appearance of our rigs as well as how we carry yourselves while doing what we do.

It was during the last training class that a question was posed that I ALWAYS think about, but have rarely discussed.  How do you handle potentially being the only person of color at the events that you handle?

So, here’s where I get a little real and tell all of you how I handle my business.  I’d be lying if I said that I’m never nervous before I do one of these receptions.  To the contrary, despite how long I’ve been at it, I always get some butterflies before virtually every event.  I figure that, the day that I stop feeling at least a little nervous before I suit up is the day that I need to hang up my cans, put my mixer and CD players away and focus more on something else.  Some events make me a bit more nervous than others.  That’s just the nature of the beast.  Generally speaking, though, I just know that I’m going to do the best job that I can when it comes to delivering on the promise that I’ve made (or the company I sub-contract for has made) and trust that my training and my experience will see me through.

In answer to the question, I know that, generally speaking, I am going to be one of few, if not THE ONLY person of color at most of the events that I do.  I am well aware of the fact that, thanks to Human Nature, I’ll be judged on sight.  I’ve heard murmurs at some events that I’ve handled; it’s going to be one of THOSE nights, or this DJ is going to suck.  The truth of the matter is, DJs get little respect unless they’ve made a name for themselves.  I’ve mentioned this in past entries: the thought is that ANYBODY can be a DJ.  Hell, according to some people, an IPod/IPad and a set of speakers can do what I do just as well as I do it.

WRONG ANSWER.

How do I combat this?  How do I move past the stereotypes, the misjudgments made by my appearance?  How do I avoid letting the color of my skin become an issue when I do what I do?

Simple.  I just do what I do.  I do it better than anyone else because nobody else can do ME.  Are there better DJs out there?  Yeah.  But better is relative.  I already know that I’m not the DJ for everybody and I’m just fine with that.  Doesn’t keep me from doing what I need to do.

You see, in order to break down those barriers, in order to smash those stereotypes, the ego gets left at the door to some degree.  I walk into every hall with a chip on my shoulder, a point to prove.  I walk in thinking that it’s on me to break barriers and prove people wrong.

How do you do that?

Professionalism.  Humor.  Sometimes with a wink and a smile.

I don’t dress like a “stereotypical” DJ.  At most of my gigs, I’m in a suit and tie; a NICE suit and tie.  My rig, an extension of myself, looks clean and well maintained.  I try to make myself invaluable to the staff working at the venue where I happen to be playing; I try to extend this to other vendors that may be working the event.  I can often be seen playing doorman before it’s go-time.  I try to mingle with the crowd.  I carry myself with confidence and I look like I’m on a mission.

And, sometimes, to break the tension, I address The Elephant In The Room as part of my spiel.  Humor, even in uncomfortable situations, can win people over.  Advising the crowd to be on the lookout for the big, Black guy in the (whatever color I’m wearing) suit has shocked people but brought on plenty of grins through my years of doing this job.  It’s something that not everyone can get away with even attempting.  I’m bold enough to go there when I feel I can get away with it.

Even with all of that being said, I’ve found that the best way to combat the stereotypes is to just use my experience to full advantage.  It’s not my skin color that people reference when recommending me as a wedding DJ.  It’s the fact that they can see the passion that I bring to the job.  They can see how much I enjoy doing what I do.  They see me dancing, they see me singing, they see me watching on with glee as the events that I’m helping to facilitate unfold.  They don’t have a clue how much preparation I’ve put into it.  They don’t see what goes on behind the scenes before each of these events.  All they see is the end result: a party thrown by a DJ the likes they’ve rarely (if ever) seen before.

Generally speaking, that transcends any perceived color barriers that the audience may have when they see me for the first time.

I wouldn’t have it ANY other way.

Behind The Board: My Church (Writing 101, Day 2)

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djstevepinex's avatarThe DJ From The Dark Side

It’s time to go to My Church.

Though, I’ve been to this place in many different settings, it’s almost always the same.  The patrons, whether paying or not are different.  The acoustics, the lighting, the size of the room may be different.  The gear that I may be using at the time may be different.  But the place…  The place is always the same.

On this day, the heat and humidity have forced me to head to My Church while wearing nothing but a white tank top, a pair of gray shorts and a pair of black fuzzy slippers.  No air conditioning for me at this point in time; I’m going to get too warm for it to matter much, any way.  As I walk down the last seven steps to My Church, I can feel a familiar fullness begin to enter my chest.  It won’t be long now.

I…

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Behind The Board: My Own Little Taste of Heaven

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djstevepinex's avatarThe DJ From The Dark Side

I have something to say that’s not quite a secret for anyone that’s been reading my blog:
I LOVE MY JOB.

So, this weekend will be the fourth week of the wedding season.  So far, I’ve done a ceremony nearly every week.  I’ve done events for a couple of fundraisers (the last one, I donated a few hours of time to the school where I’m serving my first year of service for the Minnesota MathCorps).

While I’ve been letting this post marinate in my noggin for a bit, I hadn’t decided for sure what direction I wanted to take in terms of what to share.  So, I’ll share what makes this job special to me.  I’ll share just what it is about this job that is so satisfying (I’d even say addictive).

I’ll start by reiterating that being a DJ is NOT a job that just anyone can do…

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Behind The Board: Fundraising, Line Dancing and Granny Crushes

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djstevepinex's avatarThe DJ From The Dark Side

It’s not very often that I have posted blog entries so close together. While I have no aspirations of this becoming a regular occurrence, I DID make it a point to myself to report on what the first weekend of Wedding Season 2014 was like.

Truth be told, while I’m not exhausted, I’m DEFINITELY feeling the effects of the weekend. For the most part, that’s a GOOD thing.

Friday’s event was a fundraiser for a Catholic school in Chanhassen. I’ve been their DJ of choice for this annual event for the last 4 years or so (I have actually lost count of how many times I’ve visited them). The past couple years, the fundraiser has had more of a French theme; this year, they wanted to focus more on Spring (and given the winter that we’ve just endured, I’d want to focus more on spring myself). Of the three events…

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